Coaching is about collaboration, and feedback is vital to the process. At CCG, we also love getting feedback about our blogs. We’ve been producing content for more than 25 years and passing it along to help you do what you do better. Often the feedback we get in return helps us do better, too.
That was the case after we published our “Extreme Reading” blog on February 22; go here for a refresher: Extreme Reading
This was when we recommended Marie Kondo’s bestselling book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. Your feedback told us that many of you had already read her book and put her amazing techniques to good use.
One subscriber took Kondo’s advice even further with compelling and surprising results. In her email to us, she described how she took Kondo’s main question, “Does this bring me joy?” to a whole new level. Here’s what she had to say …
“My daughter introduced me to the KonMari method two years ago, and it has quite literally changed my life in every way. I have downsized the contents of my home by 40%, keeping only those things that truly spark joy. And I felt no remorse or regret in letting those things go because they were donated or sold to others who would truly need and value them.…
“I also evaluated the people and relationships in my life, asking myself, ‘Does spending time with this person spark joy?’ And it has significantly improved the quality of my relationships on every level, because, truthfully, the answer for some people was ‘NO.’ There was no joy sparked. It meant ending some toxic relationships, but this was the healthiest decision in the long run. It also led to finding the love of my life—who was right under my nose for nearly 32 years!”
Wow! Her message remains incredibly powerful and inspirational. It reminds me of something that motivational guru Jim Rohn once said: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Booker T. Washington put the idea this way: “Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than to be in bad company.” It’s all about choosing your friends wisely.
Strive to surround yourself with people who make you better—especially in areas where you are weak. And look for people who are better than you at certain things. Perhaps they are wiser, more street smart or more spiritual. Maybe they will encourage you to be more physically fit or kinder or maybe even a better leader. Surround yourself with people who are affirming and authentic and good for you.
Rid yourself of unhealthy relationships. You know who they are—and they are bringing you down. It’s harder than simply decluttering your closet, but it’s also more important. Start today. I know it will help you do what you do better—both in and out of the office.